Femme Fatale, The Strong Woman, Bright&Bubbly, Wilting Flower, The Goddess
The Femme Fatale is an alluring, mysterious woman of great seductive charm. She can lead men into doing anything for her, and with her.
The Strong Woman is
The Bright&Bubbly woman is
The Wilting Flower is
The Goddess is a woman of great beauty or grace. Irresistible to everyone's stares and admiration.
To Become The Femme Fatale:
- Speak in a low voice. Not creepy low, just attractive low. Practice some vocal exercises for a few weeks and it will become habit. Listen to Scarlett Johansson speak for an example of this kind of voice.
- Wear dark, sexy, retro clothes. Not too Gothic-looking, though. Think Angelina Jolie in the mid-90's. Subtle, well-cut clothing that draws attention to you, but in a tasteful way. Stick to colors like black, maroon, and emerald green. Look for silk cocktail dresses, dark-wash, high-waisted jeans, expensive-looking, dramatic jewelry, and fishnet tights.
- Hang out in mysterious places. Not sketchy or scary. Just unusual. Remember that when in interesting places, one meets interesting people. Try out an obscure, artsy coffee shop, clandestine night club, or unique antique shop.
- Be "one of the guys". This means means holding your own with the guys in their poker/pool/video games and occasionally winning. You'll earn respect and allure as a result. But don't loose your feminine side trying to hang out with men.
- Be mysterious. Don't let everybody know what you are feeling or what's going on. The very mystery proves to be the allure of the femme fatale.
- Find something unique to your femme fatale and work it. Some unusual interest, skill, accessory: anything!. Individuality contributes to that mystical allure.
- Wear a signature scent. I'm not talking wimpy little fruit-foodie sprays here. Something oriental or woody like Shalimar, Allure, Opium, or Poison. It will set you apart; every time somebody smells it they will remember you and your aura. Better yet, go to the Body Shop and make your own blend. Sandalwood is a good start. Add something feminine, though, to balance it out. The last thing a femme fatale wants is to smell like a man.
- Wear your hair in an extreme side part with Veronica Lake-esque waves. Wearing it in a dramatically short style is also a good choice. Stick to true, bold hair colors, like bright auburn, dark brown, or platinum blond.
- Wear pale foundation, 'cat's eye' eyeliner, and red or maroon lipstick. Avoid glitter and 'teenager' makeup at all costs.
- Watch old movies. Mildred Pierce is a great starter. As far as music goes, Fiona Apple in "Criminal" is a good example. Let them inspire you. But don't let them take over- a femme fatale is individual.
- Make guys wonder. Call his phone number, then hang up after two or three rings. Do not call back! Your number will register on his phone. Then he'll keep calling, wondering why you called (if he's interested). Sometimes it's pretty fun to see how many times he'll call. Do not answer! He'll keep wondering why and will keep trying to figure it out. Voila! Instant mystery. If he does ask in person, act aloof or as if uninterested. He'll keep wondering. Either he'll be repulsed and give up on you or be way more interested in you. Either way, it doesn't matter to a femme fatale as there are millions more where he came from.
- Being well-educated is something that will set you apart from the flock. Being beautiful with brains adds sex appeal.
*Tips
- Be real. It's okay to follow a few of the tips, but don't go overboard.
- Have an air of charm about you. It's not enough to just be withdrawn, quiet and therefore "mysterious". Mysterious human beings are also very interesting--they might know meaningful, famous quotes; speaking sultry, and a touch of aloofness; never being direct, desperate, or obnoxiously immature; you have a brain & you're gonna need to use it now; and always be classy. Never be obnoxious to downright trashy. Mysterious people don't stand for all that fake and commercial behavior.
*Warnings
- Don't be mean! Femme fatales generally end up killing the man they love or destroying his life. Be femme without being literally fatale. But breaking his heart is okay (assuming he deserves it).
- Do not be an "available" girl. A femme is always classy.
- Make time for the girls too! More than the guys, because a femme goes through guys like mascara. Friends, however, are forever (along with diamonds). Besides, girls might get jealous of your newfound magnetism, and we wouldn't want that.
To Become The Strong Woman:
- Rid yourself of the stereotypes. Women must be meek, sweet, accommodating and gracious. It is good to have a measure of those qualities, but when a woman is so meek she gets pushed around by others and must always agree and keep her own thoughts locked up, then there is something wrong. You must be balanced and get rid of any complexes you acquired during your lifetime.
- Just do it. You lack self-confidence and are afraid to change your attitudes and your behavior. Quit dwelling on the fear and just do it. The fear will diminish in time, but you must take that first step, even if you are trembling or feel you are going to fail.
- Do not be afraid to speak your mind. Remember there is no need to be rude, sarcastic or cutting. Use a firm voice, stand up straight, look the other person in the eye and make yourself be heard. As you gain respect for yourself, so will others.
- Reclaim your power. You weren't born with the spirit of cowardice, timidity or fear. You entered this life with courage, love and good judgment. Make daily declarations of power out loud. Do it under your breath while you are driving, while you are working in your yard, while you are stuck in traffic, while you are at work. The change will not be automatic. You cannot erase a lifetime of living a certain way in a matter of days. Gradually, however, the powerful woman you have always been will begin to emerge.
To Become The Bright & Bubbly Girl
To Become The Wilting Flower
To Become The Goddess
write a poem after every meaningful person.
select a distinct but faint floral scent to always smell like.
three clusters of white oleander blossoms to represent the ideals of heaven, man, and earth.
four clusters of African irises to represent the sublime abodes of Buddhism: Upekkha, Mudita, Karuna, and Metta.
always be strong and fierce, inside and out; never show your weakness or deep emotions to people unless the relationship turns serious; whether with women or men, sexually or emotionally.
never let just any person get too close, be very selective.
keep friends close, enemies even closer.
almost always strive for beauty and balance, the sensual over the sentimental.
always learn poems by heart.
turn away from apology. only peons make excuses for themselves. never apologize, never explain.
choose incense to represent what you represent.
eat as little as possible while still maintaining good health.
be the authority figure
never let a man stay the night, dawn has a way of casting a pall on any night magic.
fear only feeble old age and death in bed.
never be kept prisoner.
always be beautiful; look beautiful, act beautiful, do beautifully.
bring people to you, never go to them.
when with lover, remain shy in front of other people, except to him.
never discuss money matters with lover.
always sleep after him and awake before him.
one must bathe every day before taking food.
have shelves in bedroom with sandalwood, flowers, necklaces.